Online course “New Relationships“

<p>After the breakup of a relationship, even the softest one, it can be very hard to &quot;get involved&quot; again.</p> <p>Fear that the new couple will eventually become like the old one.</p> <p>Fear of betrayal and betrayed trust.</p> <p>Low self-esteem and a feeling of &quot;there is nothing to love me for.&quot;</p> <p>Worries about the relationship between the man and the children.</p> <p>All this &quot;baggage&quot; prevents to stop defending, to open up, to trust. It prevents you from building a new happy life in a couple without expecting a blow from behind.</p> <p>How not to make the same mistakes in a new relationship?</p> <p>We need to notice them first. Our part in how the previous relationship turned out is deeper and more subtle than &quot;I nagged him&quot; or &quot;I got too involved with the kids.&quot; It is intimately connected to our attachment history, to how we learned to love and receive love as children. With our birth scripts. With how different feelings were handled in our family. With the stories we get into and why.</p> <p>Unless we understand these interconnections, there is no point in negotiating with ourselves not to let ourselves be hurt or openly discussing feelings. It will be like Chernomyrdin: &quot;We wanted what was best, but it turned out as always&quot;.</p> <p>I invite you to explore the way you build relationships and outline your individual plan, how to take into account and correct your peculiarities.</p>